How can you tell if anger is out of control? A number of signs may indicate a person needs help: if the anger has led to being charged with a crime, if it has led to violence against a partner, family member or others; if it leads to property damage; if it leads to regular arguments with others or constant feelings of anger; if there is a sense of loss of control because of anger, or if there is worry about what may happen because of anger. Hypnotherapy offers fast and effective tools for the person who needs help with anger management.
Anger, in and of itself, is not the problem. The problem lies with the person who cannot manage or control that behavior. People who experience any of the behaviors listed above probably have serious anger management problems that interfere with their personal and social lives. As with so many of our behaviors, these do not originate in the conscious, rational mind. These behaviors are instinctive habits and drives which have become super controllers of behavior not easily changed.
Those who cannot control anger can suffer serious long-term emotional and physical harm. Broken relationships, loss of jobs, and danger of physical harm to oneself or to others are frequent concerns. People with anger management problems may sabotage their own work, escape into silence, or lash out in sarcasm. It is important to get anger under control to successfully function in society.
Causes for anger management problems are varied and numerous. These destructive behaviors may be modeled behaviors that a child witnessed in his or her parents or others of influence. They may result from some form of frustration or powerlessness experienced during developmental years. Whatever the specific cause, the anger most likely developed from some actual situation that included strong emotions. A mature understanding of the situation may have prevented the behavior from being formed, but children often misinterpret or misunderstand situations. As a result, programming of the Middle Mind becomes corrupted.
In hypnotherapy, the therapist and the client will want to get some general sense of the causes of the anger issues, but only to identify whether or not there needs to be specific therapy directed to those causes. The goal of hypnotherapy will be to generate new thought patterns and avoid the negative thoughts that have led to the intense anger. One primary goal will be to identify and address triggers or different circumstances that may lead to either angry outbursts or continuing feelings of anger. Once those triggers are identified, therapy works to create a conscious awareness of when these events occur and to develop techniques to diffuse anger before it does harm. Therapy will help to create a confident calmness in the client and to give her the tools needed to relax. Hypnotherapy will also provide methods to deal with the side effects of continuing anger problems such as anxiety, depression, and stress.
A goal in therapy for the anger management client is the development of confidence in life that will allow a client to instantly identify situations or people that trigger angry behavior. It may be that certain words or attitudes set off the angry response. It could be that such behavior is generated by lack of exercise, or diet, or other physical or chemical factors. If so, an awareness and a plan to deal with those problems will be adopted. First, anger management clients need to develop clear objective views of the nature of their behaviors, grasping how those behavior are viewed by others. They must learn to step back from those triggering situations, to take deep breaths, and to remain calm. They also need to develop techniques for conversing rationally with others about matters of importance that previously had led to angry outbursts or angry feelings.
Hypnosis is simply a tool that hypnotherapists use to reach a client’s Middle Mind. The therapy includes not only the hypnosis, but the total engagement between the therapist and the client. This engagement includes the background development, the therapeutic planning process, and the practical follow up to each hypnotherapy session. From session one, the client should start to see the impact of the therapeutic process. The exact number of sessions will be established early, usually during the first session. With each successive session, progress will be evaluated, and more steps to permanent behavior change implemented.
Hypnotherapy is an effective means for permanently changing anger problems. Because of the long-term damage that a lack of anger management can create, people who struggle with their anger should seize the opportunity to undergo hypnotherapy as soon as possible.